The AUTISM, The Courage to Admit It

The AUTISM, The Courage to Admit It

  Autor psihoterapeut Anda Pacurar Data: 21.05.2008

The AUTISM, The Courage to Admit It
For most of us, the autism is an incurable disease. People diagnosed with autism, often stay with this label for life and people look at them with mercy and fear. They live in their own world which us, the others, do not understand or control. And still, although it might seem difficult to believe, a person who suffers from an autism disorder may live a normal life. But only if she has the chance. And this chance depends on the parents first. They must find the strength to admit the fact that their little child is different and needs help. This is the most difficult step. 

Often, parents prefer to live in denial, to see their child as a strong personality who does what he wants and when he wants. It is indeed very difficult to admit that something is not right with your child, you feel so helpless in front of him. However, his life depends on your decision, on your courage. Because the earlier he is diagnosed and the earlier the treatment starts, the more chances for him to be integrated in the family and society. Generally, the parents observe something different in their child but do not think that it is a disorder. And children on their turn might observe them, they are very attentive and aware of what happens around them, it's just that they don't show it. 

Early diagnosis 

The signs of autism disorders may be visible since the first months of the child's life. Even if the diagnosis of autism is not establish under the age of one year, and it is labeled as an attachment disorder, it is important what you do for it. And this is because in the first year of life, the baby's brain goes through the most dynamic development process in the entire life. 

  • excessive passivity (lack of crying, immobility, lack of interest for the environment, that type of "angel" child), or on the contrary, excessive activity (cries permanently, and from angels at the beginning, they become hyperactive); 
  • the refusal or resistance to breastfeeding and to care, generally (even when they receive the milk bottle, they keep their head back, they don't look at the one feeding them); 
  • lack of reaction to the voice or to the parent's presence (does not turn the head, does not smile, doesn't coo. The hearing is checked first); 
  • aversion towards the parents or other persons touches (it is not lack of sensitivity, but on the contrary, a hypersensitivity which starts from face downwards); 
  • Lack of direct visual contact although there is a contact with objects; 
  • delayed motor development. 
At least two of these signs must be present and last more than three weeks.


The autistic children have big alimentation problems. When they have successes in alimentation, they actually progress. From the refusal of breastfeeding, children get to refuse solid food or accept a product or two. The diversification of food is very difficult to be done, they refuse everything is new and have very few preferences. In almost all the cases, the children are not used to eat at the table. Thus, the eating hour becomes a fight which extends during the entire day. The parents get angry and either insist constantly as they don't want their child to be hungry, or give up and let him eat only what he wants. 

In this situation, the therapeutic purpose is to turn the meal into something without stress. Little by little the parents are taught to feed him, thus he will get new food habits. For example, while he is fed, he may be held on the knees with the back at the person feeding him, for him not to be anxious at the visual contact. The child should not be constrained because he becomes uncooperative. It is important to create a routine regarding the meals. Besides this, generally, the repetitive behaviors remove the autistic child's anxiety. In order to obtain results (under guidance), the child can live without eating for two-three days, but he will finally put a finger in food, he will taste and he will begin to like it. It is possible to throw the food on the wall on the next day, but he will taste it and he will eat it finally. He will make a mess without being afraid to be punished. Gradually, he will like to taste it and thus he will get ready to experiment the surrounding environment. 


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